How to deal with homesickness at uni
Before we begin, it’s important that we remind you: feeling
homesick at university is more common than you think. You’re not alone. Your
feelings are entirely valid and you shouldn’t feel silly for having them. Homesickness
can hit at any point during university – whether it knocks you for six once the
initial buzz dies down; or the stress of exams leaves you yearning for a
simpler life of homecooked meals and fresh bedsheets back home.
However, nothing’s quite like what this year’s uni students have faced. With a whole pandemic in the mix, even the most basic freedom of visiting home as and when you want, has diminished into thin air. Homesickness has reached a whole other level in 2020. Here’s how to deal with the bugger, covid style.
Keep in touch with loved ones
Thanks to social distancing measures, students are now spending hours locked away in their rooms with limited social interaction – triggering feelings of isolation and anxiety. Keeping regular contact with friends and family back home is now more important than ever. Call your friends, relatives and the people you care about. You may not be able to physically meet, but fortunately modern technology means you can get pretty close to it! Arrange a Facetime with friends, stick on a movie or cook dinner together – there are lots of ways to stay connected if you’re fed up of having a 10-minute phone call.
Reinvent home comforts
According to surveys, the thing we miss the most when away from home is our beds. Luckily for you, true student beds are the perfect bed to cheat on your home bed with. They are guaranteed to offer the snugness and comfort of all home beds because they were picked out by none other than true students themselves! Other than our beds and loved ones, when we miss home, it’s often the little things we do that we really miss. Habits, traditions, routines – that sort of thing. Fortunately, these things can often be recreated wherever you are. For example, by cooking your favourite home meals, watching old TV shows or using familiar fragrances and fabric softeners. You can even use apps like Borrow my doggy or Pawshake to ease the pain of missing your furry friend.
Establish a self-care routine
This year has been the year of self-care! The concept is all about looking after your mental and physical wellbeing. When feeling homesick, it’s easy to want to curl up in a ball and do nothing but be sad. If you take it day by day and do small things which help lift your mood for a little while, you’ll end up noticing a big difference. Here are some simple but effective self-care suggestions to help take your mind off homesickness:
- Read a new book
- Draw, paint or colour in
- Cook your favourite meal
- Put on a face mask
- Write a journal
- Turn your dreams to goals with a vision board
- Go for a walk outside
- Exercise – yoga, meditation, running, HIIT etc
- Tidy your room
You can’t pour from an empty cup, so take care of yourself first.
Choose real life over social media
There’s no better way to intensify homesickness than by scrolling through social media and seeing people at home looking happier than Larry’s happy friend. Try not to spend hours doing this, because quite frankly, it’s self-sabotage. Be sure to remind yourself that social media is a highlight reel, showing the snippets of people’s lives that they want to record. Often, the people around you are fighting their own private battles. You’re not alone in feeling homesick. If you strike up a real-life conversation with someone in your building, you’re likely to find they’ve experienced the very same feelings as you at one point. They may even offer some advice or consolation, which will have you feeling instantly better.
Plan visits or visitors
A great way to distract yourself and pass the time when you’re feeling homesick, is to plan visits home or arrange for people to come and see you. This is undeniably difficult in a global pandemic, but it’s still good to look ahead and allow yourself to get excited about the future. Remember that however difficult it feels now, it won’t last. Things will get better and you will be able to see loved ones at home again soon.
Don’t forget, your true team are always here to support you. If you’re feeling homesick, talk to us. We’ll do what we can to make you feel better and direct you to the best events for your wellbeing.